| Is there really such a thing
as holiday depression?
People often feel
blue during the holidays. They rush around shopping, decorating, and
cooking; are inviting people to their homes and are being invited to
are they having fun?
Often during the
holiday season people are so rushed and have so much expected of them
that they don't realize how tired and worn out they are.
This is also the
time of the year when the weather is cold, and snow or ice-filled
streets make everything an effort. The lack of sunlight seems to affect
can you do to keep the blues from catching you?
Get enough rest.
Take time to
Take time for
Do things in small
doses, instead of all at once.
expectations— don’t expect everything to be perfect.
During the holidays,
things that have not been going well seem to be magnified. Many
relationships and marriages do not survive the holidays. From too much
togetherness, families argue and have hostile or explosive gatherings.
can you prevent relationship problems from occurring?
unrealistic ideas about any event.
Don't drink too
controversial subjects at family gatherings.
If you know other
family members’ “hot buttons,” make a decision not to
engage in those discussions.
Don't measure your
gift giving against any other family members’ gifts.
Don't use the
holidays as a time to either correct a problem or seek justice for a
past feeling of being wronged. If you want your family get-together to
work well, be on your best manners. There will be time to straighten
out family feuds when everyone is less stressed.
When it is
time to try and make repairs, or if you have that argument you have
been holding back, follow these tips:
Pick the right
Say how you
feel — not how you think the other person feels.
Listen to the
other side and paraphrase their statement (Are you saying
you’re a victim.
Rehearse if you
If you made a
mistake and had a nasty confrontation, why should you be the one to
Holding on to
grievance hurts you more than the other person.
demonstrates strength and courage.
When you forgive,
you become free of anger, hurt, and pain.
If you are feeling
depressed or angry, counseling can help. It can crystallize your ideas
or show you how off-base your ideas may be.
Don't be afraid to
get the help you need. You can feel better all year long.